“Here on earth there will be many trials & sorrows…” John 16:33a


Truth filled verse a few days after one of the most horrific acts in our countries history.   The last few days we have been bombarded with media coverage of this event, stories from what happened, eye witnesses, no answers, no reasons, nothing to really satisfy our urge to know why someone would do something so hanus… and yet here we are.

As parents, how do you help your kids understand what happened and help them make some sort of sense of it all?  We have politicians getting on their soap boxes about preventing these tragedies in the future like they are “The Avengers” somehow.  We have people at each other’s throats about their stance on gun control & people defriending people on social media outlets because they post their opinion on their own page.  All of these conversations, coverages & opinions are swirling around our kids.

Jesus told his disciples that there will be some hard times here on earth, this is to be expected.  This world full of sin & evil because of man’s lust for power & ultimate authority.  We live with those consequences of sin & we will try to fix the problem and call it something OTHER than what it really is.

What I need to keep telling myself as my heart breaks for these families going through this tragedy is the last part of that verse.  What parents who trust in Christ alone as their Savior need to keep telling their kids during times as tumultuous as these is the last part of John 16:33.

“But take heart, because I have overcome the world!” 

Jesus calms his disciples down, he lets them know that HE wins.  Through JESUS there is redemption, there is peace, there is mercy, there is love!  TAKE HEART, have courage, stand firm… because you are not alone through the uncertainty of life.  JESUS is there through it all.

Our kids need to hear that, they need to know that deep down in their soul, they need to lean on that in the tough times & we as parents need to model that for them!

What happened in Connecticut is tragic & our prayers go out to this community and the people involved… my message to them is this:

TAKE HEART… Jesus is right there with you


How to Tackle Underage Drinking

According to the U.S. Department of Justice, underage drinking cost society $68 billion in 2007, or $1 for every drink consumed.


This includes medical bills, income loss, and costs from pain and suffering.

This price tag does not include the physical, emotional, and spiritual devastation that occurs when adolescents and alcohol mix.

How do you tackle this issue at home with your teenager!  This link is worth the read!

10 Ways to Tackle Underage Drinking

How to Get Your Kid into Harvard


Bioengineering expert John Medina had just given a lecture to the National Governor’s Association, and a recognized lawmaker had a pressing question. What can I do as a parent to help ensure that when my child grows up, recruiters from America’s elite institutions will line up at my door?

Dr. Medina, a specialist in early brain development fixed his gaze on the man. “Do you want to know, do you really want to know?”

The politician’s eyes showed he could hardly wait for the scientifically informed answer.

“Okay, go home and love your wife.”

Read the rest of the article here: How to Get Your Kid into Harvard

Take Notes MEN!



Do you ever just want to shake some sense into your kids?  You sit there and listen to whatever is going on and then remember all the conversations you have already had with them about the same thing they are struggling with and all you want to do is let them know how bad at listening they are and they need to figure it out.  As trying as it is to have those conversations with them those can be the most teachable moments you may ever have with them!

How you respond to tension is what they will take with them into other relationships they have & mimic/model those responses.  90% of adult reaction comes from seeing it in action in the home!  Here is what God’s word says about your words…

Proverbs 12:18 – Some people make cutting remarks, but the words of the wise bring healing.

Proverbs 15:1 -A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

Proverbs 25:11 -A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver. (my personal favorite)

1 Peter 4:8 -Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.

1 John 3:18 -Dear children, let’s not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions.

We model our faith to our children by the responses we give to them!  Parents need to learn to communicate in love to their kids even when they drive you crazy! 🙂  You are setting them up for how THEY will respond when they grow into an adult.  Hopefully, with you as parents discipling & guiding them, they will grow up into an adult who loves God & wants to be more like Jesus everyday!  That is my prayer for you!

God’s Word

Studying God’s word can be really intimidating & can leave you not really knowing what to do or how to do it.  I want to try and help you with that.  You as parents are responsible for discipling your kids & if you arent in God’s word daily and learning how to be more like Jesus there is slim chance your kids will get there either.

Set Realistic Expectations – sit down and spend 5-10 minutes a day.  You dont need to exegetically break down scripture to learn & see what Jesus was all about.  Modeling your life after Christ means you have to know more about Him.  Start with the Gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke, Jon).  Take little chunks… read them a couple times through & really ask God to speak to your heart.  Sitting down for a short period of time will allow you to get in the habit & when you are ready you can begin to study for longer.  Start Small!

Ask Questions – there are some questions you should ask yourself when you are studying God’s word so you can understand the passage as clear as you possibly can.  These are not earth shattering questions, just some obvious ones to help you get a clear view of what the author is saying.  Here are some that are helpful:

  • What do you think is the key message of this passage?
  • What did you learn from this passage?
  • Which point in this passage spoke to you the most?
  • Why do you think God included this chapter in the Bible? What’s the point?
  • Are there truths in this chapter that contradict the ideas we hear in the world? If so, what are they?
  • In view of what we have read, what changes do you think God would want you to make in attitude, words, or actions?
  • What is one passage that challenges you to change? How does it challenge you?

Just Do It – At the end of the day you are the person holding the keys to change because you can do it if you want to.  That drive comes from YOU.  If you want to know our Savior more & learn the bigger purpose for your life then you have to get in it, study it, live it.  You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make them drink.

I promise that you will see things you have never seen before if you get after it, seek God’s face and how He is calling you to change the world!  Or at least your families world!  Thats a big deal!